Upcoming Event: 2016 NH Al-Anon Convention in Nashua

The 33rd NH Al-Anon and Alateen Convention with AA participation called “Ways to Wisdom” will be held September 9 – 11, 2016 at the Courtyard by Marriott which is located at 2200 Southwood Drive in Nashua, New Hampshire.  It will be a weekend filled with fellowship, entertainment, member sharing, speakers and workshops.  If you have a…

Recommended Book: How Al-Anon Works

I highly recommend this book to anyone who worries about  a family member, loved-one, or friend that has any kind of addiction.  Al-Anon mainly focuses on helping families and friends of Alcoholics, but it is increasingly helping families and friends of Addicts as well.    This book has about 400 pages and it has so…

Eliminate the “Shoulds”

I just read a really great post called “If You Could Improve Your Life by Replacing One Word Would You?”  It reminded me of some things I had recently learned about why eliminating the word “should” from my vocabulary is something I now work on regularly.  When I tell myself I should be doing more…

Recommended Book: When Helping You is Hurting Me

Is your life dramatically out of balance? Do you over commit to others and under commit to yourself? The end result could potentially be mental, emotional, and physical illness or dis-ease and I highly recommend reading: “When Helping You Is Hurting Me: Escaping the Messiah Trap” by Carmen Renee Berry. She explores how people fall…

Recommended Book: Codependent No More

Have you lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s?  If so, you may be codependent.  If your loved one is an addict and you have a tendency to enable them, then I highly recommend the book written by Melody Beattie called:  Codependent No More, How to Stop Controlling Others and…

How Can I Show My Loved One Some Compassion?

First of all, what exactly is compassion?   Compassion means “to suffer with” and is an emotional response of sympathy. But it’s not just a feeling. The feeling is combined with a desire to help. Because we have compassion, we want to take action and help the person who is suffering. Notice the last word…

What is Detachment with Love?

Are you obssessed with a loved one’s drinking or drugging behavior?  Is it all you can think of 24/7?  Are you tired of constantly worrying and checking up on them or lying and covering up for their bad behavior?   Do you try to control them and manipulate them to do as you want?  If…